Financial abuse is the most hidden, and the most frequent. form of domestic violence. Here’s what you need to know to identify. address, and …
I supported my parents more than half my life because I genuinely believed my parents loved me and I wanted to help them. Turns out, Momloved me, but Dad? He skated on the strength of her love and sacrifice which was so strong he could mimic both just from the reflected glow.
I share these harsh details to express that I know why I started off slow financially and why I used to treat money like it’s worthless. It was used against me, it was kept from me, and aside from the candy bar instance or my mom’s gambling issues, it wasn’t discussed.
But what it came down to was the fact that the toll of being the sole income earner (while he failed to contribute to the relationship in any significant way) was seriously impacting my well-being – physical, mental, emotional. Stress is a killer. It finds its way out, one way or another.
My break up fund was essentially my year-end bonus that I was 100% planning to put to any other use you could think of rather than helping me crutch my way out of an emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship.
Simply put, I benefit from the wage gap. If I realize that, but choose to keep quiet because I don’t want to rock the boat, then that is a tacit endorsement of the wage gap. And that sucks.
Kicking people when they’re down is an ugly look and for those personal finance influencers who choose to continue to do that-you need to check your hearts. How is this helpful?
What I’m asking you is to just consider for a moment that there may be more to the story than meets the eye. You make fun of their fancy car, but what if they inherited that car from a parent who recently died?
Because like I said, adulting is hard and expensive enough in and of itself. So it’s only right to find some ways to treat yourself without emptying your wallet.
The reality is that, well, we kind of do hate poor people. And there’s a reason for that.
We’ll have to completely overhaul our budget to accommodate the realities of my new paycheck
Taking action will make you feel like you have at least a little control, which is a great remedy for anxiety.
The more common vocal feminist men are, the better. Women will know that they will be supported when they come forward and tell their stories. Men will know that there will be social consequences to being sexist.