I keep myself busy, and that keeps me from really feeling what isn’t working in my life. And that can allow me to plow ahead and not listen to voice that says, ‘Ahhhh… this is not working. This isn’t working.’ I’m like ‘Shhhhhhh! I’m working! I’m not gonna listen to you now!’ Because it can be scary, to look at what’s not going on.
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I supported my parents more than half my life because I genuinely believed my parents loved me and I wanted to help them. Turns out, Momloved me, but Dad? He skated on the strength of her love and sacrifice which was so strong he could mimic both just from the reflected glow.
I share these harsh details to express that I know why I started off slow financially and why I used to treat money like it’s worthless. It was used against me, it was kept from me, and aside from the candy bar instance or my mom’s gambling issues, it wasn’t discussed.
But what it came down to was the fact that the toll of being the sole income earner (while he failed to contribute to the relationship in any significant way) was seriously impacting my well-being – physical, mental, emotional. Stress is a killer. It finds its way out, one way or another.
What I’m asking you is to just consider for a moment that there may be more to the story than meets the eye. You make fun of their fancy car, but what if they inherited that car from a parent who recently died?
Because like I said, adulting is hard and expensive enough in and of itself. So it’s only right to find some ways to treat yourself without emptying your wallet.
We chat about her history with mental illness, how that’s impacted her financial life, what sparked her desire to help those feeling suicidal over their debt, and how money can be the most important (and useless) thing in the world.
When you don’t need help, think about ways you can make your friend’s life easier or better. It may not cost you much other than a bit of time (or it may), but saving a friend money, time or stress in an emergency situation is worth every bit of your investment.
When people discuss debt, it’s usually referenced as some sort of personal failing. Like, why can’t you pay off your debt? It’s easy. Make money, pay off your debt. Duh.
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